Episode #29 Karolina Blaszkiewicz Interview
Letting Love In....What's holding you back from love and success?
When I was first asked this question, my answer was "nothing" ! Was that ever a BIG FAT LIE!
Oh my, the story we tell ourselves. Before COVID I was dating on and off, looking for love. I had no problem meeting men...I just wasn't meeting the right man. I told myself that there just aren't any available or desirable men out there...at least one that I was attracted too.
This is not to say that I didn't go out with some great guys because I did...there just wasn't any spark for me, yet at times there was for them. I would usually end the relationship after the third date. Does this sound like you?
I would either sabotage the entire relationship by letting my snarky fighters edge come out during a conversation, when I guy who was trying to impress me said something that I clearly knew the answer to, but did not take my word for it, generally he would some how minimize my knowledge in the area of my expertise like MMA (mixed martial arts) or health & fitness…those guys were easy to let go of, but I could have had more decorum instead of blatantly saying “you have no idea what the “f-bomb” you’re talking about!” calling them out on their BS… That would usually happen on date 2 or 3 depending on the guy.
If I even got to a third date and there was no glaring issues, and the guy was genuinely a great guy that many a woman would surely be interested in and the date went fantastic I would wig out and end it. If they went in for a kiss, instead of my lips, I would turn my cheek, hug them and then exist their car as fast as I could. When they followed up to ask me out again or text me on how much fun we had. I would respond with “oh thank you so much! but I think we should just be friends… blah blah blah.” and end it as kindly as I could and move onto my next conquest.
Shameful I know…It was a pattern I was developing. But I was telling myself that there just aren’t any guys available out there that I’m interested in, or really attracted too.
It wasn’t that I wasn’t aware of this, I was lonely and wanted to go out and I wanted to be around a guy, so I would go out with some of these men just to go out. But I was kidding myself thinking that I would eventually attract a guy that I was really and truly attracted too, by thinking I could just continue to date and be entertained until Mr. Right showed up.
So how did I snap out of this? We’ll I did meet a guy and our relationship lasted approximately 2 years…it had its twists and turns, was on and off and I eventually ended it abruptly during a phone call. Something in me went “HELL NO” and I told him flat out unequivocally that I was going to hang up and I did and never called back. He didn’t do anything wrong per say, it just became staggeringly clear to me, that he was not truly available to me and I was not truly available to him. My heart was still elsewhere and the only thing we were both exchanging was what was in our heads....we weren't letting love in!
Not a good recipe for intimacy, which was what I was seeking in all the wrong places. When I should have been seeking it within me FIRST. I had to go in and explore the depths of my heart and heal it from past wounds. I simply wasn’t ready to be in an intimate relationship with Mr. Right and most all the men I attracted were in the same boat, they weren’t ready for Mrs. Right …that was an Ah-Ha moment!
This month is the month of Love and Relationships and we have just opened the doors to our online PowerUP Movement Membership Society, where Cheli & I are going to dive into our most important 12 areas in life. Each month we will take a deep look into 1 significant area of life so we can focus intently and so we can create a 360 Quality of Life that is aligned with a Holistic Life Vision that includes our soul. We have many exciting and inspiring things to share and hope you will consider joining our new evolving tribe!
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Written By Shelley Devine
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